Hi Everyone, in last week’s blog, I said we’d talk about infidelity this week.  I had some research and some thoughts typed up but didn’t get to finish that blog because I got sick.  I’ve had a nasty cold for seven days now.  So I thought I’d be honest about that and share it with you.  It really sucks to be sick when you’re a crazy busy working mom.  Do you ever feel that way?  Whether you work outside the home or have the hardest job of taking care of your kids all day, being sick really throws a wrench in things, doesn’t it?  NyQuil at night and DayQuil during the day have helped, but not that much, really.  Any suggestions for better remedies?

So when I’m sick and have to keep going anyway, I have this little internal pity party going on all the time.  Do you do that?  I know everything will be fine and I’ll be back to normal soon enough, but while I’m hacking and blowing my nose in the bathroom at work I feel like my life sucks.  And when I get home and there’s a sink full of dishes because my teenage son has to be asked 500 times to take care of them and I usually just end up doing it myself, I feel like my life sucks.  And when I think about how I don’t have the kind of job where you can call in sick – I never do – no matter how sick I am, I feel like my life sucks.

But then, when I’m all better, the world is bright and rosy again.  After the fuzzy brain and snotty nose have cleared, everything seems even better than before.  I’m grateful just because I can think and breathe again.  I’m grateful that I enjoy my job and feel happy to go to work.  After being sick for a week or more, just being healthy feels like the greatest blessing.  So I’m looking forward to that day.  For now, though, I still sit here with the tissues piling up.  Gross, I know, sorry.

And speaking of that negative attitude that comes with sickness, I’m wondering if it’s not a good time to make decisions.  What do you think?  Here’s one I’m grappling with now.  I wrote and revised my book Is This All There Is? over a ten year period.  (I learned a lot and plan to get book #2 written much more quickly!) In the last few months, I’ve read it over and over in an attempt to eliminate every last mistake.  It has been quite the obsession.  When I received what was supposed to be the final proof copy, I read it again thoroughly and found a couple of very small things I wanted to change.  So we went through the process all over again.  Now, I have the second proof copy and as I started reading it again, I found something that bothers me.  I wouldn’t even call it a mistake.  It’s probably not something anyone would notice.  But who knows.  Do I indulge my crazy inner perfectionist and go through everything it takes to make a change all over again and pay the fees to create a new proof? Or do I do what my husband recommends and let it serve as a reminder that nothing is ever truly perfect and that’s okay?  One person pointed out to me that if I’ve read the book as many times as I have (maybe 20 or so times) and didn’t notice it till now that no one reading the book just once would ever notice it.  It’s also getting very close to the publication date, January 3, to still be making changes. What is your opinion?  I’m very curious.

So yeah, I’m sick and feeling yucky, but it will all get better soon.  And I’m trying to figure out what to do about the book.  Any thoughts you want to share about any of it would be so welcome.  Next week, we’ll get back to our conversation about relationships and infidelity.  It’s some pretty interesting stuff.  After that, I want to start talking about kids… so much for us to discuss on that subject… whether or not you have kids.  We’ll look at the truth about how they impact a marriage and the realities of being a parent.  The good, bad, and the ugly… the truth – that’s what I want this blog to be about!  By the way, it’s funny to me that last week’s blog was all about sex and that I said I was inspired to have more sex as a result of it.  You can imagine how that goal is going given my current condition!

Salud!